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Eliminate Fear of Rejection and Never be Afraid to Speak in Front of an Audience Again

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Most people have either had a bad experience with public speaking or have avoided getting up in front of an audience fearing that they may be rejected for one reason or another. In either case the mere thought of getting up in front of an audience and failing or feeling like the audience is scrutinizing their presentation is very daunting. So how does one get over this public speaking fear or how I like to call it –“perceived fear” because all or most of this is in your head?  Remember the first thing is that the audience is “your audience” and you are the presenter which means you are in control. The audience is listening to you as they see you as an authority; this may be hard to believe but is true the only person that is the harshest critic is yourself.  Ok this is simple to say but how do you get over being your own critic? How do you realize confidence before you step on stage?  The answer is knowing some basic fundamentals before you speak and feeling comfortable with not only who you are but the way you will deliver content that will be delivering and using a formula that will give you the assurance that your presentation is being well received.  Remember 90% of your nervousness does not show to your audience.

First of all let’s talk content.  Is it relevant to the audience and will the audience gains from your presentation. If you feel that your content will be of value to your audience then you have the first step down and you should feel confident that your material is being well received. You can test this by posing rhetorical questions for audience buy in. Let’s back up a second though…  The design of the presentation will give you even more self assurance because you will have a sort of script to follow this alone will give you as a speaker great confidence.

You can attend a public speaking workshop to be able to learn to design your presentation, but I will give you a little insight. First of all make sure that your title is presented as “solution” to/for your audience that way you have their undivided attention at the beginning of the presentation. Trust me when you feel you have your audience focused on your topic at the onset of your presentation this will give you the confidence right off the bat. Then you will go into the body of the presentation, this is where you will have the opportunity to back up your solution (title).Once gain, a good public speaking workshop will be able to teach you how to design a good body with the major points of focus. For example you will want to use no more than 3 points and you will back each point up with some evidence or a factual account. The presentation does not end after you have finished with the last point. This is where you have the opportunity to close your audience.  You will review or recap your presentation points and then tie them back into the title which was or is your solution.

When participants who take public speaking workshops learn this they become very confident and effective with their presentations and if you choose to take a public speaking class you will eliminate your fear of rejection and never be afraid to speak in public again.

Public Speaking Training Programs that Actually Work for You

Finding a public speaking training company that will satisfy your needs can be a chore.How many times have you been through a company training session provided by an outside source only to find that a after a few days you find yourself forgetting what you have learned? There are a lot of training companies that boast that their programs whether it be sales training, public speaking training, or any other general business training that promises to produce more revenue for your business. I myself have experienced and endured many training programs through my years in the corporate world that promised that once we completed these magical courses that company revenue would increase at a healthy click. Very soon after our minds were armed with new approaches and solutions to outsmart  the competitors and the very people (customers) that we were to obtain new business.

Most companies or individuals are desperate for a quick fix to make themselves more potent producers not really paying attention to how the mechanics of the training course. I have only received and retained very few techniques from most of the training companies that have impacted my business skills, why? Because most training companies tout programs that they have developed with mediocre tools for success or dispense what I call “rote” information which translates into basically training material that has been rehashed and rehashed from other training courses that you may have received  in your early years in sales or management. You may also experience a training that offers a “cute” tie in with some kind recreational theme or so. I’m sorry but this type of training lasts a few days and you will feel yourself forgetting what you have experienced shortly thereafter. This s due to the fact that your training experience was one sided meaning that you probably did not participate in the training to validate what you have learned. Eighty percent of public speaking training companies do not offer the opportunity to learn a section then practice and then perform while in the training class. This is the only way to “reinforce” the training so that it sticks. Most training companies will send in a trainer as a “talking head” to ‘preach” training program and with the exception of fielding a few questions from the participants instead of taking the time to validate what participants truly learned.  So what should you look for in a successful training workshop? An example of a Public Training workshop that I have experienced is actually having the presenter or trainer deliver many sections during the day of training and after each section the participants will break out and then practice with a partner from the class to reinforce what they have learned and then do a solo in front of the room as to simulate a live presentation in front of an audience. They also showed you how to design and write, while in class, a well crafted and effective speech. When this method is employed about 8 or 9 times in the workshop the participants will actually come out with something that is truly learned and absorbed. Most training companies will specify how they institute their training on their web site or most people should inquire as to what a proposed itinerary will include. It’s  important to find a public speaking training company that will actually leave you with a noticeable change in your confidence and skills.

How to Conquer the Art of Giving a Great Presentation

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Being able to give a great presentation in front of an audience may be good enough for a routine presentation, but if you are looking to truly influence and audience you will need to learn the fine art of selling.

Selling an audience involves a different strategy than the usual sales call. First of all you will need to have an outline of your great presentation with a good title; this means your title should be a solution that your audience will benefit from after listening to your presentation. The solution or title should be the “hook” that got your audience into the room. So what does a good hook look like? Most titles (hooks), (solutions) are pretty mundane just because the presenter typically thinks that once they get into to bulk of the presentation the audience get interested which may or may not happen. A mediocre hook that wasn’t developed properly  looks like this  “Develop a Winning Presentation”  a more effective title would look like this “How to Devise an Effective Presentation to Gain Audience Buy In” As you can see that latter presents more of a direct solution that will get the audience’s attention immediately and presents a solution.

The next trick or ability that one needs to hone is to build rapport ASAP with your audience, because we all know that people buy from whom they trust.  You can start with your background and some anecdotes to get started. Another good way to gauge the potential audience “buy in” would be to ask your audience why they are present at the seminar, meeting or lecture and then acknowledge their intent.  A great presentation should have three main components ; the opening (title) the body (presentation) and finally the (close or benefit) that the audience will gain as they subscribe to your direction . The reason most presenters fail is because they DO NOT use this simple formula!

A great presentation should be designed to educate and inform with a little suggestive selling by simply backing up your talking points with facts, examples of successful outcome so that it does not seem like you are pushing your sale on them. Trust me your audience will get the message and you can check this by observing their body language like facial expressions and other non-verbal cues. After you have completed the body of the presentation it is now time for the close, this process needs to be smooth as you can make it and the easiest way to do this is to recap your presentation mentioning your three or four main points then tying them into your close. I

Your close would literally go something like this;

So today we covered ..  Point #1 Coming up with a good solution or title to “hook” your audience,  2. Point #2 How building rapport to gain the trust of your audience,  3. Point #3 Showing evidence that our product or process works successfully, You will be able Devise an Effective Presentation to Gain Audience Buy In – Bam! You just closed your audience properly and then this will certainly lead to the question and answer portion of your presentation.  I am certain that if you incorporate this process into you next presentation you will have a successful outcome.

Overcome the common fear of trouble speaking up at work

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Leading a meeting or presenting a deck are common workplace practices, but for some people, it is incredibly difficult to speak up at work.

This public speaking fear happens for a variety of reasons.

“Shy people, for example, are reluctant to speak out in public because they are uncomfortable being the focus of attention,” she told Global News.

“Socially anxious individuals worry about suffering embarrassment or humiliation,” she explained. “Introverts, by contrast, like to work out their thoughts privately before sharing them.”

She added that in rooms where ideas are flying back and forth, the pressure to respond quickly or on the spot can add even more pressure.

And once people are known in the office for not speaking up or contributing to larger projects, employees may be reluctant to ask for their advice at all.

“This can be a self-fulfilling prophecy: you don’t expect the quiet person to speak so you keep talking, which ensures that he or she will not speak,” she continued.

“Introverts do not like to interrupt, but they often have ideas they want to share. Simply asking a quiet person how he or she prefers to provide input can solve the mystery.”

Some people prefer to be invited to speak, some prefer to share their ideas in writing, and some just need some time to prepare their thoughts.

When your fear turns into a larger problem

Some, like experts at job-hunting site Monster, added the fear of speaking up, in general, could even cost an employee their job.

One  study found when employees don’t speak up, it can lead to non-productive habits, reduced performance and turnovers and a higher chance of being absent.

“There are four very common fears that stand in the way of you speaking up, especially as a new hire,” Some believe they are too new to have their opinion count at the workplace, while others are never too sure if they are 100 per cent right.

“It doesn’t matter if you’re not an expert on the material or subject of the meeting. Of course, you should come prepared for the meeting with a few thoughts and talking points, but don’t get discouraged from sharing your opinion in the future if you’re wrong about something.”

Unless you speak up, you can’t fully thrive at work.

“There is a reason that certain people advance more quickly than others in their careers,” he wrote. “They have mastered the art of speaking up by having a balanced voice that their colleagues respect and admire.”

How to be more confident

But this is easier said than done. Getting over the fear of public speaking doesn’t happen overnight, but there are ways to slowly conquer this fear.

For starters, be prepared. “For introverts, the preparation they enjoy is what can build confidence and ensure success. Avoidance is the biggest trap because it blocks preparation.”

Do the research, practice your delivery and talk through your ideas with someone you trust. “People forget how helpful preparation can be for informal interactions. If you learn more about the people you are going to meet at a work reception, for example, you will be able to enter conversations with curiosity and context.”

Seek other ways to improve public speaking — most major cities have Toastmasters groups for example, or similar workshops that help people develop these skills. Some companies even have courses employees can take during work hours.

“Discover how much fun it can be to present in a low-stakes, high-support setting while honing your skills for a variety of speaking scenarios.”

For those days when you do feel extra nervous or not confident, remember that it happens to most people.

“Remember that most people are anxious about speaking in public, so go easy on yourself.”

 

As a Public Speaker, Can You Hold Your Audience’s Attention ?

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Even if you consider yourself a confident public speaker, one that has no problem speaking in front of an audience or group the question is can you truly reach them?  Many public speakers or presenters can get up in front of an audience and blaze right through their prepared speech or presentation, but how did they influence the audience or how effective was their presentation? Most every time someone gives a talk , presentation or speech they are trying to sell or convince or influence people towards a direction and most speakers think they have done their job by merely being the focus point of dispensing their pitch to their captive audience. Just because you as a public speaker just delivered what you thought was a “good presentation” in your mind,  and it probably was problem free as far as your nerves and confidence and content were concerned does not mean it was effective and that you had actually reached or connected with your audience.

As a public speaker, the purpose of getting up in front of an audience in  almost any situation is to be able to sell your point and most people want to deliver a successful presentation. Being able to reach your audience is an art or science depending on your interpretation and it is done first of all by hooking your audience with the proper title to address and issue with a solution that the audience came to hear. Secondly and equally as important you have to captivate your audience and connect with them.  Stories are the best way to connect and build rapport with your audience as a public speaker. Stories have the ability to connect and build trust with the audience, they also build credibility. For example – You tell a story about a horrific automobile accident during a speech to young drivers in a driver’s education class. You start out citing the day and time it happened , who was involved , a little bit about the actual crash and the result of the crash in detail. Most people will be able relate to certain specifics of this accident , maybe they would be familiar the part of town that it happened in , had a brush with the same kind of instance or heard a similar story of an automobile accident. The point here is that you are simply building rapport and credibility with any story you use in your speech or presentation that is the magic formula that gets the audience ‘s attention . You have to be able to relate to your audience in order to influence.

All great leaders and public speakers have the ability to relate to the audience in one way or another. They utilize their ability to draw the audience in to listen to them because they used the psychology to reach their audience by presenting a solution that the audience wants to hear, relating to them with stories that further build rapport and trust. If you do this you will be able to hold your audience’s  attention as a public speaker.