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Overcome Public Speaking Nervousness And Come Off As A Polished Professional

Not everybody and I mean most people no matter how articulate they are talking in a group, interacting in sales call, giving a monthly meeting can actually stand up and give an effective presentation to an audience without some trepidation.  I have given countless public speaking workshops and the percentage of people coming to the class or workshop get nervous when they stand up to even introduce themselves. I guess that is why they are in the public speaking workshop. There are many folks that come in and say they only need “This Portion “ of the workshop , but they soon find out that is not the case. Yes a lot of people that come into the workshop are high level professionals , but that does not necessarily mean they are top proficient presenters.  

So why do people that have so much confidence get choked up, tripped up, fall apart during their presentations in front of an audience? The key is simply just this – they are not familiar with presenting their material or do not feel that their material is strong enough, their problem is just this – they have not thought to put together a well honed , organized presentation. So the problem is not whether you are a confident person is a question of what kind of person you become when you give the presentation. I had the opportunity to work with an executive of a medical device company who was going to have to give a presentation to a group of potential investors for his product launch. As you can imagine he was going to have to be on point, thorough and very persuasive to get the investors to write a big check. He did not get where he was without confidence but his issue was that he was not confident with his presentation and after reading and tweaking a few things he felt very confident and comfortable to deliver the presentation successfully because he now understood it. . So what did I suggest to better make this presentation easier for him to deliver? For one thing the title of the presentation needs to be a solution that the audience came to hear about , you need to grab their attention immediately! For example instead of “Get Better Results from Your Employees”  your title should be “ How many Managers Got Better Results From their Employees by implementing Three Key Strategies” Now we have a solution right of the bat that the speaker feels confident with! The next step, and this sounds simple but many folks struggle with this. You need to come up with three key points to reinforce your title. The three key points would be worked out almost the same way as the title only they are going to support the title by an example , analogy or instance that the audience can understand of make the connection to. When I finished working out the presentation for the aforementioned CEO of the medical device company , he was so confident that he would nail his upcoming presentation for the potential investors and all that was imply done to give him confidence was to reengineer his thinking by reengineering his presentation.

It’s Ok to Suck at Public Speaking

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Whether it’s a presentation, a talk, or a wedding toast, stringing together words in front of a sea of faces is terrifying for a lot of people. Millions of people. Probably even you. And me. Definitely me. I hate public speaking.

It’s scary because you might screw it up and be humiliated in front of your audience, whether that’s 10 people or 10,000. It’s scary because, let’s face it, it’s contrived, artificial, and weird. And the big reason: It’s scary because most of us don’t do it enough to get comfortable with it. Practice makes a huge difference.

But here’s the thing: Mastering the art of public speaking is overrated. It’s such a rare event in most people’s careers that the only energy it deserves is indifference. It’s the waterskiing of human speech. If you’re good at it, great for you. But do you feel bad because you are mediocre at waterskiing? I don’t.

In most fields, you can have a successful career while almost never speaking in public. You can have a successful career speaking in public but not being very good at it. You can have a successful career while cowering in the corner, if you’re really, really good at other key aspects of your job.

So stop worrying about how much you suck at public speaking. Which, ironically, is exactly the kind of attitude that could help you get better at it.

Consider comedians. Note their general bearing: They don’t seem nervous, but they also don’t seem super excited. They seem like they’re hanging out with you in the kitchen at a party. TV reporters? They generally seem like they could take or leave an assignment. Auctioneers: Relatively chill, actually. They all seem like they’re just having a conversation — one in which they’re the only ones speaking, but, still, a conversation.

It’s not like we at Forge don’t have public speaking tips. We do! (Listed and linked below.) But honestly: Don’t give this too much of your energy. Treat it like just another chat. Because it is.

Use the “reappraisal” techniqueto channel the adrenaline you feel right before speaking.

Record your speech and critique it. A lot.

Use Dialectical Behavior Therapy to regulate your mood.

Remember that video chat is like your own mini TV show.

And I have a few tips myself. I know it’s not that easy just to be relaxed when giving a speech, so here are a few ways that have helped me seem lower-key than I actually feel:

Say something weird. There is nothing audiences love more than a non sequitur. Find a thing in the room that everyone is aware of, and say the thing you might say if you ran into a friend at a cocktail party. “How do you think you change a light that high up?” “What’s the dog looking at in that painting?” In fact, whatever question a Joe Pesci character might ask while making small talk in a Martin Scorsese movie, ask that. It’s not a joke. But a moment of surprise and delight puts people in a receptive state of mind.

Don’t give a TED Talk (Unless you’re actually giving a TED Talk). That is, don’t pepper your speech with supposedly-off-the-top-of-your-head-but-obviously-rehearsed stories and precisely timed hand gestures. That approach is good for TED. But people aren’t here for a TED talk. They’re here to see you do whatever they’re here to see you do.

Focus on only one person every few seconds as you’re speaking. When you lock eyes, imagine everyone else just not being there. (Switch from person to person, otherwise, one member of the audience is going to get really creeped out.) Treating your speech like a one-on-one conversation will help you emotionally connect to the people you’re speaking with. It will make you feel more relaxed. And then you might even start having fun.

Credit for article – Ross MCCammon Executive Editor, Forge/Medium and author of Works Well With Others https://bit.ly/2N1TWU6

Public Speaking Training Programs that Actually Work for You

Finding a public speaking training company that will satisfy your needs can be a chore.How many times have you been through a company training session provided by an outside source only to find that a after a few days you find yourself forgetting what you have learned? There are a lot of training companies that boast that their programs whether it be sales training, public speaking training, or any other general business training that promises to produce more revenue for your business. I myself have experienced and endured many training programs through my years in the corporate world that promised that once we completed these magical courses that company revenue would increase at a healthy click. Very soon after our minds were armed with new approaches and solutions to outsmart  the competitors and the very people (customers) that we were to obtain new business.

Most companies or individuals are desperate for a quick fix to make themselves more potent producers not really paying attention to how the mechanics of the training course. I have only received and retained very few techniques from most of the training companies that have impacted my business skills, why? Because most training companies tout programs that they have developed with mediocre tools for success or dispense what I call “rote” information which translates into basically training material that has been rehashed and rehashed from other training courses that you may have received  in your early years in sales or management. You may also experience a training that offers a “cute” tie in with some kind recreational theme or so. I’m sorry but this type of training lasts a few days and you will feel yourself forgetting what you have experienced shortly thereafter. This s due to the fact that your training experience was one sided meaning that you probably did not participate in the training to validate what you have learned. Eighty percent of public speaking training companies do not offer the opportunity to learn a section then practice and then perform while in the training class. This is the only way to “reinforce” the training so that it sticks. Most training companies will send in a trainer as a “talking head” to ‘preach” training program and with the exception of fielding a few questions from the participants instead of taking the time to validate what participants truly learned.  So what should you look for in a successful training workshop? An example of a Public Training workshop that I have experienced is actually having the presenter or trainer deliver many sections during the day of training and after each section the participants will break out and then practice with a partner from the class to reinforce what they have learned and then do a solo in front of the room as to simulate a live presentation in front of an audience. They also showed you how to design and write, while in class, a well crafted and effective speech. When this method is employed about 8 or 9 times in the workshop the participants will actually come out with something that is truly learned and absorbed. Most training companies will specify how they institute their training on their web site or most people should inquire as to what a proposed itinerary will include. It’s  important to find a public speaking training company that will actually leave you with a noticeable change in your confidence and skills.

Why Can it Be Difficult to Reach Your Potential?

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Have you at any point began a venture or set out to accomplish something yet halted right amidst it or more awful, quit before you even began. Or on the other hand have you at any point imagined yourself accomplishing something, such as talking in broad daylight or owning your own business, yet never at any point attempted to put it all on the line? What was ceasing you? For what reason didn’t you simply fashion forward and start finding a way to achieve your objective? The appropriate response is fear. Psychologist’s have happened to with a rule called the “ICEBERG Theory” which expresses that we just utilized 10 percent of our cerebrum and the other 90 percent is submerged like an iceberg. The reasons we have issues accomplishing what we need is that dread, nervousness and uncertainty shield us from directing into that 90 percent.

A decent case can be the point at which you are endeavoring to defeat the dread of open talking or talking before vast of little gatherings climate for work or some other kind of introduction. Numerous individuals are called upon to talk before individuals nowadays so the expertise or capacity to have the capacity to give a certain introduction is pivotal. The dread or potentially uncertainty of not having the capacity to convey a decent introduction unhesitatingly hinders our execution.

The vast majority don’t understand they have fear or that dread is the reason they don’t achieve their objectives and dreams to reach your potential. A few people believe it’s their experience or how they were raised or because of something that transpired previously. Be that as it may, the truth of the matter is there are a huge number of individuals on the planet who originate from more regrettable foundations and circumstances than you, yet they are presently profoundly fruitful or even well known. What was the distinction? On the off chance that they can do it for what reason right?

I’m here to let you know, “YOU CAN”reach your potential You should simply figure out how to function past dread to achieve your maximum capacity. Presently, that may not sound simple, and it’s most likely not going to be simple, at first. Also, there might be diverse circumstances that raise distinctive feelings of dread within you. Nonetheless, you can figure out how to push past the dread to reach your potential at any rate.

The initial phase in figuring out how to push past the dread is perceiving when fear is available. Have you at any point had a thought at that point immediately rejected it? Or then again have you at any point had a want for something important however pushed the idea away? Figure out how to perceive what is experiencing your brain, how you’re feeling, and what you’re imagining right then and there. In the event that your prompt idea is something like “I would never have that” or “It must be decent”, stop yourself without a second’s pause. Look at yourself, your emotions and your musings. The main thing keeping you down is fear.

Dread comes in every unique frame for various individuals. A few people are more dreadful than others and after that there are the individuals who appear to have no dread by any means. In any case, the individuals who appear to have no dread by any means, all things considered, honestly, they have fear. They’ve quite recently figured out how to push past their dread. Thus can you.

Regardless of whether your level of dread is colossal and appears to stop you regardless of what you need to do throughout everyday life, or whether your level of dread is on a littler scale, you can figure out how to push past your dread to reach your potential and achieve your objectives and dreams. In any case, you in all likelihood wouldn’t have the capacity to do it all alone. On the off chance that you might you’d be able to achieve your objectives and dreams at this moment and wouldn’t read an article on figuring out how to function past your feelings of dread.

Discover somebody you trust and somebody who won’t encourage into your feelings of dread to enable you to figure out how to genuinely function

Getting Rid of Your Public Speaking Fear for Good

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If you could get rid of a fear that has been plaguing you for many years wouldn’t you try to remedy it if you had the opportunity? I always hear people saying oh every time I have to speak in front of an audience I go blank or I get so nervous I cannot concentrate or I freeze up and so on. The problem is that these people never really try to fix these issues. It’s estimated that as much as 75% of the population struggles with a fear of public speaking or public speaking anxiety to a certain degree or worse. You are not alone and furthermore you are in the majority of many people.


Percentage people who suffer from public speaking anxiety       74%

Percentage of women how suffer from public speaking anxiety 75%

Percentage of men how suffer from public speaking anxiety      73%


If you needed corrective surgery for your eyes such as an invasive laser treatment which an Eye Doctor  would only charge you a one – time charge to have you vision corrected so that you no longer need glasses you would probably do right? The same goes for public speaking fear. There is a remedy and help for this condition and that it is to attend a good effective public speaking class or public workshop that addresses all the issues that are connected with the fears and anxieties of speaking in front of an audience and it only involves a one – time cost just like laser vision correction. If you could realize the confidence you would have speaking in front of an audience anxiety free for the rest of your life a one – time cost for a public speaking workshop that will address your fears and make you fearless and a more potent speaker would be a drop in the bucket compared to the results that a presentation skills workshop would do for you.

A Good public speaking workshop should be a two day class so that you will feel immersed in a small culture of individuals and instructor that is concentrated and focused on nothing but public speaking training. The workshop should contain many exercises and opportunities to practice and perform what you would learn in the class. Good workshops show how you learn to give speeches and presentations without notes, how to eliminate your public speaking fear and apprehensions in front of your audiences, how the use of stories captivates and persuades audiences, how to recover from broken speeches and how to design convincing presentations. You should be learning about 50% of the time and watching others and performing yourself the other 50% time. This type of workshop that utilizes the method of “learn, practice and perform will break down barriers that are inhibiting your public speaking skills and instill confidence that will have a long lasting impressive effect to fix your public speaking fear for life. So getting get rid of your fear of public speaking is almost like any other procedure to cure or correct what has been plaguing you for a long time in order to make you the person you want to be.