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9 Public Speaking Tips that Will Definitely Help With Any Presentation

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It’s that day when you have to give your dreaded presentation, the day you have been anxious about for weeks and now it has arrived and you are all of a sudden standing up in front of some sort of audience hoping that you will not fall apart. People are always looking for ways to either overcome their public speaking anxiety and/or to deliver a successful presentation. So how do you quell the fear and anxiety so that you can be the confident speaker that you want to be? Well aside from taking a full on public speaking class which I do recommend for many reasons you can follow these public speaking tips to get you through that dreaded presentation this time. These tips address many common issues that people have when they are “on stage” and can help you too. First tip and this one is one of my favorites because it’s just a matter of self awareness that you will be able to master immediately.

1. Realizing that 90% of your nervousness DOES NOT show to the audience. You may think that the audience can see the thoughts racing through you mind but can’t. They cannot see your sweaty palms or nervous stomach. The idea behind this is that people get even more nervous when they think the think the audience can see those things that are not even visible to the audience. Once you realize this you will not be nearly as anxious.

2. and 3.     DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT try to memorize or recite your presentation word for word. It’s   very tempting as a secure measure to get you presentation right, but you will only get tripped up when you get out of order then you will end up stammering and stuttering.

4. Show up Early – Why? Because it gives you the opportunity to “own your surroundings “ just think if your audience came to your house wouldn’t you feel a lot more in control ? Yes you would. Arriving early will give you the opportunity to feel very comfortable with your surroundings plus you behave piece mind that your equipment is working and all of your room is set up way before your audience arrives that will take that much worry out of the equation.

5. Another factor that kills your confidence is that you feel that the audience is judging you for some unimagined reason well here’s you to validate yourself by simply scanning the room for friendly and receptive faces – you need to be roving the audience with eye contact any way, so trust me this will quell any doubt that your presentation is not being well received.

6. If at any time during your presentation you feel uptight or nervous just take a couple of inconspicuous deep breathes, this will bring more oxygen to the brain and relieve the tension.

7. Make sure that you know your topic inside and out. Being perceived as an expert will lend credibility to yourself and your talk and you will be perceived as an expert who will give you confidence. I used to give stem cell presentations and every now and then someone in the audience would ask me if I was an MD., (which I’m not) right then I know that I was presenting in a credible manner.

8. No matter what it takes you need to drop your hands and I know this can be extremely difficult as you are nervous to begin with and doing something with your hands like touching your fingers together or clasping them or sticking them in pockets give you that added security. If you feel nervous and you need to do something with your hands simply start gesturing, this will dispense a lot of nervousness energy and get you looking like a pro because you need to gesture any way.

9. Last tip – Most people are accustomed to practicing their talk in front of a mirror or just into thin air. Do not do this… Instead find a small audience of 1, 2 or 3 people like your family or friends this will provide a small audience and will also be a good way to get helpful feedback, that way you will have already performed your presentation to get all of the bugs out.

I will guarantee if you use any of these tips that you prefer you will not only be well prepared  but be a lot less nervous and more confident the next time you speak in front of your audience.

Body Language – Knowing What People are Really Saying

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Has it ever happened to you the amount you are stating to individuals in any event, when you are not speaking? Except if you are an expert of mask, you are continually sending messages about your actual considerations and emotions if you are utilizing words. Studies show that your words represent just 7% of the message you pass on. The leftover 93% is non-verbal. 55% of correspondence depends on what individuals see and the other 38% is sent through manner of speaking. So consider everything. In the business setting, individuals can perceive what you are not saying. On the off chance that your non-verbal communication doesn’t coordinate your words, you are burning through your time. Eye to eye connection is the most evident way you impart. At the point when you are taking a gander at the other individual, you show interest. At the point when you neglect to visually connect, you give the feeling that the other individual is of no significance. Keep in touch about 60% of the time to look intrigued, yet not forceful.

Outward appearance is another type of non-verbal correspondence. A grin sends a positive message and is suitable in everything except a day to day existence and demise circumstance. Grinning adds warmth and a quality of certainty. Others will be more open in the event that you make sure to check your demeanor. Your mouth gives pieces of information, as well, and not exactly when you are talking. Mouth developments, for example, pressing together your lips or contorting them aside, can demonstrate that you are contemplating what you are hearing or that you are keeping something down. The situation of your head addresses individuals. Keeping your head straight, which isn’t equivalent to keeping your head on straight, will cause you to seem confident and definitive. Individuals will pay attention to you. On the off chance that you need to seem to be amicable and open, tilt your head aside. Where you place your arms recommends how open you. When you cross your arms over your chest this states that you have closed others out and have no interest in them or what they are stating. This position can likewise say, “I disagree with you.” You may very well be chilly, yet except if you shudder simultaneously, the individual before you may misunderstand the message. How you utilize your arms can help or damage your picture too. Waving them about may show eagerness to a few, yet others consider this to be as one of vulnerability and adolescence. The best spot for your arms is close by. You will look certain and loose. On the off chance that this is hard for you, do what you generally would when you like to improve at something—practice. Inevitably, it will feel common.

 The point of your body gives a sign to others about what’s experiencing your head. Inclining in says, “Reveal to me more.” Leaning endlessly flags you’ve sufficiently heard. Adding a gesture of your head is another approach to assert that you are tuning in. Stance is similarly as significant as your grandma consistently said it might have been. Sit or stand erect on the off chance that you need to be viewed as ready and energetic. At the point when you droop in your seat or incline toward the divider, you look drained. Nobody needs to work with somebody who has no energy. Control your hands by focusing on where they are. In the business world , especially when you manage individuals from different societies, your hands should be seen. That would mean you should keep them out of your pockets and you should fight the temptation to put them under the table or despite your good faith. Having your hands anyplace over the neck, squirming with your hair or scouring your face, is amateurish. talk, as well. Another weakness people have with their hands is when they are giving a public speaking presentation. A great deal of development shows apprehension. How and where you cross them tells others how you feel. The favored situations for the cleaned proficient are feet level on the floor or legs crossed at the lower legs. The most non-proficient and most hostile position is resting one leg or lower leg on top of your other knee. A few people consider this the “Figure Four.” It can make you look presumptuous. The distance you keep from others is essential on the off chance that you need to set up great compatibility. Standing excessively close or “in somebody’s face” will stamp you as pushy. Situating yourself excessively far away will cause you to appear to be distant. Nor is the thing that you need so locate the fair compromise. Above all, do what causes the other individual to feel good. In the event that the individual with whom you are talking gets backing far from you, stop. Either that individual necessities space or you need a breath mint. You may not know about the thing you are stating with your body, yet others will get the message. Ensure it’s the one you need to send.

What is Your #1 Fear?

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As I sat in the Dentist chair chatting with my Dentist before he proceeded with my treatment, he mentioned that the number 1 fear for most people is the dreaded Dentist visit. I said well that may be true to some extent but it is well known that the number one fear in the world is getting up and speaking to an audience, unless of course other countries have fostered some very brave people when it comes to public speaking. So why would you think that presenting in front of an audience trumps getting a root canal? Well there are many more nerve endings in the whole body versus your mouth and when you are called to perform on stage your nerves affect the whole body in the form of trembling  and stumbling over your words not to mention  many other physical manifestations that affect the psyche which creates a fear in the mind that can be unprecedented. This can outweigh any type of perceived physical discomfort that you may anticipate at the dentist.

The question is how to we prepare and try to eliminate our #1 fear before speaking? Well most people will do some research and try to find articles to help them to overcome their public speaking fear. There are many tricks and methods that you can do to help yourself but the best way is to take a public speaking class when they are available to you. The reason that you will need to seek out a public speaking class is that you will be able to learn from pro’s that have been helping people for a long time so they have all the bells and whistles and have experience speaking to audiences themselves and know the ropes. You will need to find such a public speaking class that will teach,  then have you do many performances as to simulate real life speaking presentations to prepare you for your real life speaking performances. Some things to consider of look for as a class itinerary would be how to eliminate audience intimidation, how to organize your thoughts – this will cut down on nervousness being that you have a well thought out presentation , how to build rapport with your audience and how to break out of your emotional stalemate. All these are done with simple effective exercises and can be life lasting for a permanent solution.

So as you can see public speaking fear is a real concern for most people and can be addressed and an most cases eliminated .But like anything else you can’t just keep putting off a fear that cripples you from being a successful communicator when it your task to speak.

It’s Not Really The” Fear” of Public Speaking That Scares People It’s Something Else

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Most people as you know have a fear or anxiety of getting up and speaking in front of an audience big or small or putting on any kind of oral performance for that matter. I have been teaching , coaching and delivering public presentations for almost nine years and have experienced many things that inhibit people from being comfortable or competent when they have to perform in front of any human being(s). I will tell you from my experience with public speaking training that the issue does not lie in just getting up in front of people to perform, most of the time it is simply that people are either not properly prepared mentally . Not being prepared mentally means not knowing how to design a presentation , how to organize and deliver your thoughts which can lead to failure and that is the true fear which is failure. These are just a few but let me illustrate an example; I have had many people tell me that they can talk one on one with confidence and ease but when it comes to the stage they are terrified and the reason they are is mostly because they are not familiar with foreign or unrehearsed  material, they are great talking about something they know like themselves. It’s a big psyche game when you are on stage and the only difference is that there are more people and you don’t have the proper training to show you how to design and deliver a talk that you feel comfortable and confident with. Having your thoughts organized will quell your fear of failure which is what we “really” fear.

A good public speaking training course or workshop will show you many ways how to become a confident and fearless speaker. They will start by showing you how to actually design a presentation that you will be comfortable with so that your fear factor will decrease tremendously. You will feel confident that you will not fail with your presentation and of course eliminate fear. Knowing what you are going to say and how you will say it makes all the difference in the world. Another important thing that can be gained from attending a public speaking workshop is knowing how to engage the audience by building trust and rapport. When you feel that you have the trust of the audience this will also provide you with the confidence that you are being accepted , feeling accepted reduces fear.  So as you can see most of the fear that you experience is simply just learning and knowing  how to use the proper tools needed to  give a fearless presentation.

Eliminate Fear of Rejection and Never be Afraid to Speak in Front of an Audience Again

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Most people have either had a bad experience with public speaking or have avoided getting up in front of an audience fearing that they may be rejected for one reason or another. In either case the mere thought of getting up in front of an audience and failing or feeling like the audience is scrutinizing their presentation is very daunting. So how does one get over this public speaking fear or how I like to call it –“perceived fear” because all or most of this is in your head?  Remember the first thing is that the audience is “your audience” and you are the presenter which means you are in control. The audience is listening to you as they see you as an authority; this may be hard to believe but is true the only person that is the harshest critic is yourself.  Ok this is simple to say but how do you get over being your own critic? How do you realize confidence before you step on stage?  The answer is knowing some basic fundamentals before you speak and feeling comfortable with not only who you are but the way you will deliver content that will be delivering and using a formula that will give you the assurance that your presentation is being well received.  Remember 90% of your nervousness does not show to your audience.

First of all let’s talk content.  Is it relevant to the audience and will the audience gains from your presentation. If you feel that your content will be of value to your audience then you have the first step down and you should feel confident that your material is being well received. You can test this by posing rhetorical questions for audience buy in. Let’s back up a second though…  The design of the presentation will give you even more self assurance because you will have a sort of script to follow this alone will give you as a speaker great confidence.

You can attend a public speaking workshop to be able to learn to design your presentation, but I will give you a little insight. First of all make sure that your title is presented as “solution” to/for your audience that way you have their undivided attention at the beginning of the presentation. Trust me when you feel you have your audience focused on your topic at the onset of your presentation this will give you the confidence right off the bat. Then you will go into the body of the presentation, this is where you will have the opportunity to back up your solution (title).Once gain, a good public speaking workshop will be able to teach you how to design a good body with the major points of focus. For example you will want to use no more than 3 points and you will back each point up with some evidence or a factual account. The presentation does not end after you have finished with the last point. This is where you have the opportunity to close your audience.  You will review or recap your presentation points and then tie them back into the title which was or is your solution.

When participants who take public speaking workshops learn this they become very confident and effective with their presentations and if you choose to take a public speaking class you will eliminate your fear of rejection and never be afraid to speak in public again.